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a parrot story

Mrs. Broomfield's dishwasher quit working, so she called a repairman. He couldn't accommodate her with an evening appointment, and since she had to go to work the next day, she told him: "I'll leave the key under the mat. Fix the dishwasher, leave the bill on the counter, and I'll mail you the check. By the way, don't worry about my Rottweiler. He won't bother you. But, whatever you do, do not under any circumstances talk to my parrot!"

When the repairman arrived at Mrs. Broomfield's apartment the next day, he discovered the biggest and meanest looking Rottweiler he had ever seen. But, just like she had said, the dog just lay there on the carpet, watching the repairman go about his business.

However, the whole time he was there, the parrot drove him nuts with his incessant squawking and talking. Finally the repairman couldn't contain himself any longer and yelled: "Shut up, you stupid bird!"

To which the parrot replied: "Get him, Brutus!

Lesson: Instructions are provided for a reason. You may save yourself tons of grief and pain if you follow them.

a confession story

A priest was being honoured at his retirement dinner after 25 years in the parish. A leading local politician, who was also a member of the congregation, was chosen to make the presentation and give a little leaving speech at the dinner. He was delayed so the priest decided to say his own few words while they waited.

"I got my first impression of the parish from the first confession I heard here. I thought I had been assigned to a terrible place. The very first person who entered my confessional told me he had stolen a television set and, when stopped by the police, had almost murdered the officer. He had stolen money from his parents, embezzled from his place of business, had an affair with his boss's wife, taken illegal drugs. I was appalled. But as the days went on I knew that my people were not all like that and I had, indeed, come to a fine parish full of good and loving people."

Just as the priest finished his talk the politician arrived full of apologies at being late. He immediately began to make the presentation and give his speech.

"I'll never forget the first day our parish priest arrived,' said the politician. 'In fact, I had the honour of being the first one to go to him in confession."

Lesson: Your actions can come back to haunt you in unexpected ways. Therefore, it's best to be true to yourself and always do the right thing.

Keep your spirits up

Stories do have that magical quality of relieving our stress.  Just ask the family of Walt Disney; he recognized the value of storytelling and turned it into a business.  He has millions of fans worldwide who have been inspired by his stories.
In this time of severe economic downturn it’s important to keep a good attitude so we can function better.  Keeping our spirits up is easy when you begin recalling various pets, yours or even the neighbors’ animals.  Pet stories are something everyone can identify with and recall easily.  Everyone has a pet story that can make you laugh. 

 

“It's not what it looks like. Or perhaps it is. My leg (as briefly pictured in the upper-left-hand corner) is gnarled up with road rash. I was sitting in a media chair with my pants down to ease the pain on my thigh. My dog, decided the pants were amply warm, convenient, and inviting, so she crawled in. What? That's not how you roll at your house? Don't judge me.”
As I was updating my profile on HubPages I started having some fun relating personality profiles of my current pets. Reading through the profiles on HubPages I discovered there are a lot of sociable fun-loving people who are in love with their children and their pets. Great! A green light to tell pet stories! It doesn’t get any better than that. That’s when I decided to write this pet stories hub. I bet the comments are going to be really funny and interesting! Sometimes, I think I write some hubs just to see the intriguing things people like to impart. People can be a lot of fun too. Life is good.

the write way

These days, everyone suffers with stress whether it's a little or a lot, and the problem is no one deals with it properly. Instead of talking about it, they just bottle up their emotions. There are many reasons why people choose to go this route, one popular theory is they think it's a sign of weakness and they need to show their tough side, they don't want to burden others with their problems. But all that pint up emotional baggage can lead to other problems, people may start to lash out and soon their behavior can turn dangerous, even deadly. That's why people need to release their emotions in some form and writing's one good exercise.

Journal Writing

Like most people, I bottle up my emotions and I use writing as my outlet, every night I make it a priority to write in my journal. Keeping a journal is way of unleashing all your unresolved feelings; let's say you recently broke up with your boyfriend, then you can write about what a jerk he was and the habits that annoyed you.
Or let's say you're dealing with a major problem, like you are unhappy with your job or handling all of your kid's school activities, then write the situation and when you reread the entry you may find a way to deal with it. You may discover it's a small problem you can ignore, or you think of better solutions to the problem.
The best part of keeping a journal is it's for your eyes only; all the emotions you can't express to others will be private and nobody will know your deepest secrets.

Other Forms of Writing

Writing doesn't have to be limited to a journal; poems, short stories, and even articles also can help cope with stress.
Poems and short stories allow people to use their imagination and express their thoughts in unique, creative ways. Fictional writing lets you create your own little fantasy world with outrageous characters and settings, a place where you can escape to every once in a while. You can even incorporate your personal problems into the story and have the characters deal with them in an unusual manner, this in turn will help you with your dilemma.
And believe it or not, those dreadful school reports and articles are also excellent ways of unleashing your feelings. There are so many unresolved issues in our society and everyone has an opinion they would love to voice and by writing a paper you'll be able to voice your feelings on the subject. Another great thing about this type of writing is it requires research and by doing it you'll gain new insight on a subject that may render your original opinion. So instead of moaning about a report due for sociology or history class, get started cause you'll be learning something new.
The next time you need to unleash all your pint-up emotions, just put pen to paper or type away on your computer, afterwards you'll feel a lot better.


References:
Fratelli, Marco. "Ways To Release Your Bottled Up Emotions." HubPages. Date of Access 7 December 2010 http://hubpages.com/hub/Ways-To-Release-Your-Bottled-Up-Emotions
Lesser, Daniel. "How Your Daily Journal Writing Can Help Reduce Stress." ArticleSnatch.com. Date of Access 8 December 2010 http://www.articlesnatch.com/Article/How-Your-Daily-Journal-Writing-Can-Help-Reduce-Stress/373
Childree, Laurie. "How Writing Can Help Reduce Stress." Helium. Date of Access 7 December 2010 http://www.helium.com/items/1849513-writing-to-relieve-stress

Turn to Writing for Stress Relief

Many people keep diaries or journals to record down the events they experienced during the day. However, did you know that keeping a journal can be very therapeutic for stress sufferers?
Writing in a journal as a method for managing stress isn’t the same as using a journal to keep a log of daily events. In order for a journal to be therapeutic, a person must write in detail about the emotions and cognitions they felt in relation to the events that caused them stress. Essentially, writing in a journal for stress relief is almost like opening up to a psychiatrist.
There are many benefits to writing in a journal. It can help you clear your thoughts and understand your feelings, allowing you to learn more about yourself. It also helps to solve problems, by allowing you to analyze and pick apart a problem, so it is easier for you to find a solution. Furthermore, by writing down details after suffering a traumatic event, it helps a person to process how the event truly affected them, so they can explore and release all the emotions that were felt.
When using writing as a therapy, during the process a person uses both hemispheres of their brain, which enables their experiences to become completely integrated into the mind. In addition, aside from relieving the negative side effects that accompany stress, writing as a form of therapy also promotes these health benefits:

• Reduces the symptoms of arthritis, asthma and many other health issues
• Fortifies the immune system, helping to prevent a number of illnesses
• Improves cognitive functioning

Not everyone can use writing as a form of stress relief. For some people, such as those with a learning disability or perfectionists, writing may actually cause more stress instead of taking it away. In the case of those with a learning issue, the act of writing would be difficult and frustrating. On the other hand, perfectionists would likely nitpick at their work, wanting to edit or re-work their writing until it is acceptable to them. Ensuring you write a grammatically correct entry into your journal is not what journaling is about, because it doesn’t allow you to access emotions.
Aside from perfectionists and those with a learning disability, writing as therapy is also a discouraging method for those who don’t want to relive their negative experiences, or who only record their negative thoughts and emotions without also including positive ideas on how to overcome their problem.
Nevertheless, writing has proven to be an excellent form of stress relief for many people. All you require is a pen and journal, or even a piece of paper and a quiet area where you can explore and write down your thoughts. This makes it one of the most inexpensive forms of therapy out there. Also, don’t forget that if you find writing too hard on your hand, you can use a computer for writing therapy.
If you haven’t yet considered writing to relieve stress, there is no time like the present. You’ll find that while you may not release the tension stress may cause your body, writing can release the tension in your mind by providing you with self-knowledge and allowing you the chance to heal emotionally.

stress

“If you’re wound up too tight all the time, you’re actually killing brain cells.” - Dr. Al Sears

Two medical professionals I follow religiously are Dr. Oz and Dr. Al Sears.  These guys know the medical field inside out and upside down, yet they somehow relay their information to non-medically-inclined people like myself in a way that actually makes sense.

In a recent article by Dr. Al Sears, he discussed the importance of relaxation. But he wasn’t approaching it from the angle that most of us approach relaxation.  He wasn’t extolling the virtues of relaxation as it relates to our heart, our happiness, or even our home.

In this particular article, Dr. Sears explained how relaxation affects our mental fitness.  As both a self help and mental fitness devotee, I found it all to be exceptionally fascinating.  However, for anyone who struggles with relaxation, it should be exceptionally unsettling.

Stress is the Leading Cause of Mental Decline

Stress is the leading cause of mental decline.  I realize I just typed the same sentence twice, but I think it deserved twice the attention.  Here, according to Dr. Sears, is the reason why stress leads to mental decline:  When we feel stressed, our body produces the hormone cortisol.  In small to moderate amounts, it isn’t that big a deal.  Bothersome, yes, but nothing to panic over.  However, in larger amounts, get this:  IT BECOMES TOXIC TO YOUR BRAIN CELLS.  Toxic!

Over time, too much cortisol ruins your brain’s “biochemical integrity” and causes mental haziness, forgetfulness, and confusion.

How Can We Reduce The Toxic Hormone, Cortisol?

You reduce your cortisol by reducing your stress.  Just as different things produce stress for different people, different activities will reduce stress for different people.  For example, two of my daughters get utterly and completely stressed out by storms – or even the hint of a storm.  My oldest daughter and I LOVE a good storm.  I believe my husband gets a certain amount of amusement from them as well.  I’m always having to make him come inside before he’s blown away or struck by lightening!  The three of us could probably be storm chasers, but my younger two daughters are often under the covers with one clap of thunder.

Different people are affected differently by things in life – which is why you should never, ever, ever tell anyone, “That’s no big deal!” or laugh at someone else’s worries.  Just because it’s small to us doesn’t mean it is to them.

By the same token, we all find relaxation in different places.  Below are some of the most popular ways to relax.

• Play a game! I work from home and spend a great deal of time at the computer.  Every now and again, I can be found playing a game of solitaire.  When whatever I’m doing online becomes especially stressful… or if I’m just stuck…. I’ll run to the solitaire playground and clear my head.  Its relaxing effect is, literally, instantaneous.
• Pray and meditate. Prayer has been proven to reduce cortisol.  Of course, that’s not the main reason we should do it – but it is yet another fantastic benefit.
• Take a ride in your car. I realized one day just how relaxing driving around can be.  It was about a year ago – when our entire server was hacked and it looked like we were going to lose every blog and site we’d worked so hard on.  I went for an Arby’s roast beef sandwich and sweet tea (I don’t know why their tea is so good – but I’m hooked!).  During the 5 minute drive, I found myself feeling much better.  I sort of surprised myself when, instead of turning left to head back home, I turned right and took the longest route imaginable.  There I was – drinking sweet tea, eating a roast beef sandwich, and singing out loud with Faith Hill… not a care in the world.
• Read. Reading is always a great distraction and a perfect, inexpensive way to relax.
• Breathe. Focus on deep breathing.  Shallow little breaths just compound your stress.
• Watch a little TV Land! Old sitcoms are like comfort food.  They’ll lift your spirits and give you a laugh at the same time.
• Play with Your Pets. This is another one of my favorite ways to relax and unwind. You simply can’t feel stressful or tense when you’re petting a precious animal – or playing with them in some manner.
• Cook, garden, mow the yard, clean the garage… Doing something physical is a perfect way to let off steam and reduce your stress.  Cooking is a personal favorite activity, so I look for reasons to enjoy it whenever I can.
• Do something about what’s causing the stress. If you can pinpoint exactly what’s causing your stress, do something about it.  That sounds like simple, even, obvious, advice, but sometimes we get so busy bemoaning what troubles us that we neglect to take action.  For example, I listened a few days ago as a woman in the store told her husband how “fed  up” she was with being overweight, how “unhappy” and “miserable” she was.  She said she couldn’t even look forward to summer.  The poor brave man suggested she start walking – only to be cut off with, “That won’t do any good!”  Then he said, “How about a diet?” – that suggestion was met with icy silence.  My cashier handed me my change and I took off before she thought of her reply.  If we’re unhappy with something, we’re the only ones with the power to do something about it.

What if someone else is causing your stress?
Avoid them like a two-headed rabid wolf!  Okay, I know, that isn’t always possible.  Sometimes these “stress carriers” are family or co-workers.  We can’t avoid them all the time, can we?  My advice is this:  If you can’t do anything about the things they do to stress you out – change the way you react.

• Your wife’s a nag? Make up your mind to give her less to nag about!  Wipe your feet, pick up your socks, let down the lid – whatever it is that she harps on… you control the mute button by giving her fewer things to complain about.
• Your husband’s a penny pincher? If possible, get your own pennies and dare him to touch them!
• Your boss is a control freak?  Do everything you are supposed to do, as well as you possibly can.  Stay on her/his good side to the best of your ability.

Basically, treat everyone as well as possible and always give them your best.  If you put forth a little more effort, smile a little more often, and flat out refuse to fly off the handle – the “carrier” will be flabbergasted and will, in turn, cause you less stress.  Try it!
If you take one thing away from here today, please let it be this:

“If you’re wound up too tight all the time, you’re actually killing brain cells.” - Dr. Al Sears

dealing with stress

There’s a shockingly disturbing trend I’m seeing in e-mail, on blogs, and in the news.  More and more people are suffering from:

• Anxiety and Anxiety Attacks
• Heart Problems
• Stress
• Sleeplessness

These, when they take a nasty turn, can lead to further health problems, relationship problems, financial setbacks, and a general loss in quality of life.  At least, in most of the cases I’ve seen, most people are actively trying to make themselves better by making necessary changes.  But as Daisee points out, change is hard – sometimes really, really hard!
When it comes to oversimplifying things, I’m so guilty I should be locked up for life.  I’m well aware of that.  But having acknowledged the fact, I still have to say that I think the answers to these problems are often within our own power.  It’s sort of like me this morning.  I woke up at 3:15 dying for a drink.  I knew I’d left a cup in the bathroom adjacent to our bedroom.  With eyes barely open, somehow I managed to turn the water on.  Then my only problem was, “Where’d that darn cup go?”  I felt around on the counter in the dark with my left hand, then it occured to me – the cup was in my right hand.  I must have absentmindedly picked it up before turning the water on.
I had just what I needed, I just didn’t realize it.  I think that’s the same with the malady of  problems were all seeing in one form or another.
Oh, yeah, back to oversimplifying.  Below are a few  Simple Steps that I think can get us all back on the right track.  They’re steps we all should become familiar with because from where I sit, there are two groups of people:  1. The ones who can recognize themselves in the bullet points above,  and  2. The ones who will become familiar with them tomorrow if they don’t make changes today.
Step 1
Just this once, put yourself first.  Ask the following questions:

1. When am I the happiest?
2. When am I the most at peace?
3. When am I the most stressed?
4. When do I feel the most anxious?

Closely examine your answers.  At the risk of exceeding even my own simplistic boundaries:  Find more time for doing those things that make you the happiest and bring about the most peace and do everything in your power to cut back on those things that stress you out or cause anxiousness.
I hate using myself as examples, because I certainly don’t want anyone to think for a second that I consider myself an ideal anything (Aside, that is, from being a great mom and wife – I look at my family and figure I must be doing something right!).  Like most people, I learn from experience.  Since I’m such a busy bee, I have more than my share of experiences, so I have more than my share of lessons!
Anyway, nearly a year ago  I had a regular checkup with my lovely doctor.  She’s Ukrainian and I could listen to her accent forever – even when she was telling me how my blood  pressure was so much higher than it used to be.  It was a shock to both of us because mine has always been incredibly low.  On the 45  minute trip home, my youngest daughter and I talked it out.  I had been incredibly busy with our home business.  We had moved servers, added websites, increased the number of blogs we were publishing, and I had a few new projects lined up that I was a little antsy about.
I was putting in a lot more hours than usual at the computer and to stay alert, I drank even more coffee than usual (and for me, that’s nearly an obscene amount).  I would honestly stress if I was 1 hour late answering e-mail.  And if I went a day without posting on my blogs?  Forget about it!  I felt like I’d messed up big time.
Looking back now, I marvel that I didn’t kill myself!
By the time we pulled into the driveway, my young physician (and also lovely, thank you very much – I could listen to this one’s Kentucky accent two forever’s) had decided that it was time to cut back -  on caffeine and work hours.
My approach was, “What will become of my websites and blogs if I cut back?” Her approach was, “What will become of your family if something happens to their mom and wife?”
Point made.  Point taken.
I began drinking my very regular/very beloved caffeinated coffee in the morning, but fell head over heels in love with drinking hot green tea and other decaffeinated tea in the evenings.  (I sleep better as a result!)
I actually dropped a few online projects and, even, got rid of a few blogs.  I began stopping whatever I was doing online (unless, of course, it was for someone else) at a certain time each day.  I assigned a “cut off” when online world ended and offline world took over completely.  It may seem minor to others, but it was major for me.
I also made a point of doing things that make me happy more often:  Watching movies, watching birds, reading about polar bears, living green, and other endangered animals (basically gettning my Save the World on),  doing yoga, watching tv, and cooking – I’m never happier than when I’m cooking.  Mentally saying, “This is when work totally begins and this when work totally ends” helped me a lot.
How much of an impact did it have?  When I went back for a checkup just 6 months later (she made me schedule it that soon because she was so concerned about the b.p.), her jaw dropped when she saw that it was completely back to where it had been.  She even aksed me, “What have you been doing?”  Then when I left, she said, “Keep doing what you’re doing!”
I have been.  (Two) Doctors’ orders.
When you’ve determined what things bring peace into your life, invite them right in and never allow them to leave.
As for the things that bring you stress, keep something in mind.  Many times, even things that we love can become stressful, if we allow them to.  I absolutely LOVE writing,  responding to e-mail, blogging, and all of the aspects of working and playing online.  My approach just needed to be tweaked a little bit – I didn’t even realize I was experiencing stress until I got it under control.
Step 2
Eat a good diet and make certain that you’re getting enough rest.  Again, simple as pie, right?  Then why aren’t we all doing these things more often?!
Our bodies will function a lot better if we’re more aware of what we put into them.  Eat more fruits and vegetables, drink more water, and take a multivitamin if you think you’re not getting all the vitamins you need. I also strongly recommend drinking Green Tea daily. Your body will love you for it.
As for rest, if you’re like most people, you aren’t getting enough.  Aim for a little more.
Step 3
Realize that you can’t do everything. Learn to say “No” to a few things before you’re forced to say “No” to a lot more. There is nothing in the world that’s important enough to gamble with your health. Not a spotless house, not popularity, not a rasie, and certainly not money. Good health beats all of these temporal things, hands down.
I know I’ve rambled on. This post has become much longer than I intended for it to. But this is a subject that I feel very strongly about and I want to get the word out there – to as many people as possible, as soon as possible. If it seems like I’m making this a life or death situation, it’s because it is.  Please examine your workload, your level of stress and anxiety and adjust your lifestyle accordingly.  Chill the heck out and do everything to make sure that you’re not just in this for the long haul – but that you’re going to razzle and dazzle every step of the way!
You wear razzle and dazzle so well.

pets help in reducing stress

Pets are great for companionship, and with even more benefits pets decrease stress and make life more manageable.

The most popular pets are noted for their loyal or playful characteristics, for their attractive appearance, or for their song. The most common of pets being dogs, cats and birds.


The bond of a pet and a human grow very strong as they learn to depend on each other to meet their needs. The human looks at the innocence of a pet as in the innocence of a child.

They can depend on the fact that their pet will always be consistent they will remain excited to see them; they will remain affectionate no matter how the human is feeling. For the most part they have no complicated mix of emotions but they do suffer from some stress in their life.

Pets recognize the human as a means of satisfaction for attention and receiving food. The human strokes and messages the animal while exchanging body heat for warmth and comfort.



Pets also provide their owners with health benefits; it has been shown that pets reduce stress. There is now a medically-approved class of therapy pets mostly dogs, who are brought to visit confined humans. These pets decrease stress that can be caused by loneliness and seclusion.

Walking a dog can provide both the owner and the dog with exercise, fresh air, and social interaction.

Pets have the ability to stimulate their caregivers, in particular the elderly, giving people someone to take care of, someone to exercise with, and someone to help them heal from a physically& psychologically troubled past.
Pets decrease stress and may help people achieve health goals, such as lowered blood pressure, or mental goals. There appears to be strong evidence that having a pet can help a person lead a longer, healthier life.
Pets learn to sense emotions from humans based on their affection levels and their actions. If the human is withdrawn the pet senses that something is wrong or different and attempts to change the human’s behavior maybe by nudging them or curling up to their body for heat when they are unsuccessful at producing a response.

11 lessons in life

1. It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return, But what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel.

2. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.

3. The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.

4. It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.

5. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone-but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.

6. Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright.

7. Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.

8. Always put yourself in the other's shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the person too.

9. A careless word may kindle strife; a cruel word may wreck a life; a timely word may level stress; a loving word may heal and bless.

10. The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

11. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with a tear. When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die, you're the one smiling and everyone around you is crying.